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Happy Place

I’m in my happy place.

Before now, I always thought this contentedness was limited to a certain place, time, activity, solitude, or with certain people. These things matter. There are places, people, and movements that resonate more harmoniously with this person we call Howie. So, yes, they all play a role, but not in the way I thought they did.

Currently, it’s easy to feel positive. I’m healthy, my body is responding to training like never before, and my life situations are quite stable—simple and uncomplicated. I feel excitement for what’s ahead in the next few months and the beautiful people with whom I’ll be sharing that time. There’s tremendous gratitude. However, it’s thanks to the inside work that the physical and logistical lands more deeply. It’s in that deep being where I notice something new.

I’ve been on a decades-long search to understand happiness. I’ve had tons of fun in my life. I thought that was happiness. But it was all fleeting. It never stayed for as long as I wanted. I hopped between places, activities, and objects looking to regain that delight. I dove into various practices looking for the eternal injection of contentment, for the secret to life. It all kept running through my fingers. Sure, there was ‘forward progress’ but, to where?

I don’t want to imply that I’ve suddenly found and drank from the Holy Grail. What I am discovering is that peace and happiness are my natural condition. (Insert Neo’s ‘Whoa!’ after he watched Morpheus leap to another skyscraper.) Peace and happiness have been there all the time. I mistook the outward experiences, feelings and joys for happiness. The truth is that the outward is impermanent, and my essential being is changeless—always and already—and informs the outward, the ever-changing thoughts, feelings, activities and relationships.

❝ If our peace and happiness are dependent upon objective experience in any way, however refined or noble, we can be sure that underneath a veneer of peace, the sense of lack is smouldering. Sooner or later we must have the clarity and courage to return from the adventure of experience and come back to our self. …The great secret that lies at the heart of all the main religious and spiritual traditions is the understanding that the peace and happiness for which all people long can never be delivered via objective experience. It can only be found in our self, in the depths of our being. ❞ *


It’s within the changeless (being) that the changing experiences occur. This natural being is the ever-present and unchanging constant in all changing experiences. It’s only from the viewpoint of experiences that something changes and thus appears to happen. Realising this allowed for a deep shift, the deep knowing that happiness is my natural being.

Again, don’t get me wrong. I know there are tough times ahead. I’m 100% certain that I’ll feel angry, frustrated, disappointed, hurt, sad, confused, worried, etc. I know that parts of me are going to run towards previous habit patterns looking for something, anything, to soothe and assuage pain. But what’s different now is that I have a deeper sense of what’s real and enduring.

But, yeah, right now, I’m going to turn up the tunes loud and dance in the kitchen, the living room and in the forest.

❝ It is not necessary to change the content of experience in any way in order to be in touch with our innate peace and happiness. ❞ *

✌️ ∙ 🌱 ∙ 🙏
* Rupert Spira, Being Myself

This is my personal journey—a soulful sojourn in which I share musings arising in and from self-inquiry. I don’t always go into all the characterising details; To me, such minutiae carry more value when explored as pointers in investigation occurring in both silence and when teased out through vulnerable conversation. The purpose is to share some insights that may resonate for you in your own journey.